I am 44-years old. I have come to terms with the fact that I will never birth a baby. Even if my body would allow it (which it wouldn't,) I don't want to be one of those women who attends her child's high school graduation at 65 or 70-years old. Science has allowed many new fertility options but I am slightly repulsed when I read about women going to gigantic lengths to have a baby in their 50s or 60s. Joan Lunden having two -- TWO -- sets of twins at her age is wrong, wrong, wrong.
I have been blessed with my husband's two children in my life. They are my greatest blessings. All of my friends have shared their children. My goddaughters ... oooh! I cannot explain the passion I feel for them.
Actually, I'm being facecious. I didn't forget. It was a conscious decision. I've been in other relationships and maybe I would've done it but the timing wasn't right. When I fell in love with the husband, there were already two children involved. I have been allowed to be actively involved in their lives. The good, the bad and the ugly.
I was 27 when the husband and I started dating and 29 when we married. The oldies lived in Mississippi and the first exposure I had to the mother-in-law's personality was when the husband said, "I told my mother about you." As the story goes, she said, "Get rid of her -- she'll trick you into having a baby." (I love to remind her of this story because she had never even met me.)
Tricking is not in my nature and obviously, that little prediction didn't come true. The other day she said to me, "You would've been a wonderful mother." Well, well! I'm a little psycho about certain things but it is always done out of love.
Others may not agree with me but I did get to experience motherhood, or at least a piece of it. I'm a nurturer by nature. I may not have birthed a baby but I've nurtured a few children. Still do.
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I don't know what I would have done without you helping to shape the girls into who they are. We tease about Emily having your DNA but it appears Annie has quite a lot as well. Her passion for Journalism is certainly from you. Of course, we know that Emily gets her personality from you! They both adore you and I suspect they will always continue to have you as a huge part of their lives. I feel blessed that you have not only been there for them, but for me as well. You certainly keep me sane & keep me focused on their issues no matter how little or big. You help me to rationalize what needs to be said or done. You taught me to "pick my battles carefully". The belly piercings, the boyfriends, the "mean girls", you name it, WE have been there. God needed you to mother many many children. Giving birth to them wasn't what made you their Moms. It was you being you. I can't count the number of children that have been blessed to have you a part of their lives. I know they are all grateful, as well as all of us "birth" moms. We love you "Momma Sheri"
You know nothing about Joan Lunden's situation. Just because you chose not to have any children, doesn't mean people who DID have more than one are wrong. You sound like a bitter bitter woman.
That anonymous comment was hateful and so off base. You know nothing about the person writing this blog.
You are the one who sounds bitter.
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