Recently, I sat with two friends and a gaggle of dogs, enjoying the last summer days. I made a saucy comment, which my friend Cynthia found witty. My other friend said with a straight face, "Oh, you were those mean girls in high school."
Was I?
I remember doing some mean things -- mainly when someone was taking advantage of Jan. She didn't need me to protect her but there I was! If you're going to mess with her, you have to go through me. It's almost 30 years later and I feel the same.
I remember saying some mean things. Ok, let's stop kidding. I say mean things every day -- usually to the husband or the oldies. But, I don't remember saying a lot of mean things in high school. I don't think I had the mental capacity.
My mom and I can say mean things to each other. We're just screwy enoungh to find it funny later. We are extremely honest: "You hurt my feelings," or we make unwelcome comments about each other's lives. The worst is, "I'm just disappointed."
Young girls can be cruel. I remember it from my childhood, I've witnessed it with the daughter and I've watched it with my friends' daughters. I'm oversimplifying but boys just punch something or someone -- girls get verbally vicious. They turn partially Amish and shun someone.
The good news is they grow up and (usually) become nice and kind people. If I was a mean girl in high school, I had a good reason. I'm not a mean girl today. I would never intentially be cruel. If I come across that way, it just means my mouth got ahead of my brain.
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You were NOT a mean girl! Just smart & witty. I was always just so compliant and didn't realize that I was getting taken advantage of, until you would make it crystal clear that someone shouldn't mess with me. I felt honored. And I would like to think that on that rare occassion, I was there protecting you or defending you. Mean? Nah, just strong.
I think teenage girls are mean because they're insecure. But there's no excuse for grownups.
I know you're not mean - but I have a sense of humor that gets me in trouble once in a while - I'll bet you do too.
You have a mean mouth sometimes (you get that from me), but you are not a mean person. I agree with Cess that teenage girls are mean. They are trying to figure out who they are and cover their insecurity.
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