I Didn't Raise Him

To borrow a phrase, the husband can be a little "out there."

I used to get uncomfortable or start a mean, big fat fight when he did or said something I disagreed with. Then, it was pointed out to me that he is an adult and I did not raise him. I have no responsibility for his words or actions. Nor should they reflect on me. Unlike the oldies (who in some bizarre way consider themselves the same person,) I want to be my own person who chooses to be with my fungi.

Occasionally the mother-in-law will say to me, "He didn't learn that from his childhood." I always counter back, "Well, I didn't raise him."